Psychologists at the University of Toronto stumbled on some surprising findings. According to their study, men in long-term relationships often underestimate how often their female partners want to be intimate.
The research followed 229 long-term couples, most of whom are heterosexual. The couples who were studied had been together for six years on average, and they reportedly have sex on an average of one to two times a week.
In one study, 44 couples kept a diary, recording their own level of sexual desire each day, as well as their perception of their partner’s level of desire and happiness in the relationship.
In study two, 84 couples reported their level of desire and their perception of their partner’s desire and relationship, but under the setting of a laboratory.
Study three involved 101 couples who kept a diary for three weeks, reporting the same three aforementioned issues. But, they were also asked to report how motivated they were each day to avoid sexual rejection.
All three studies reaped the same findings:
Men consistently underestimated their female partner’s desire. Women, on the other hand, had a more accurate read on whether or not their partner was interested in sex.
The researchers concluded that men underestimate their partner’s desire to avoid sexual rejection. If a man initiates sex and his wife coolly rebuffs him, he may feel bad or resentful whilst she may feel annoyed. By assuming she isn’t interested in sex, he avoids this downward spiral.
Interestingly enough, on days when men thought their partner was less sexually interested than she actually was, their female partner reported feeling more satisfied and committed to the relationship.
So in other words, he may actually work harder to entice her, which may explain why she still feels content on those days.
“It is better for the relationship for him to under-perceive, because it avoids complacency,” says Amy Muise, a postdoctoral fellow at the University of Toronto.
“The assumption that women are going to be the lower-desire partner needs to be thrown out,” says Kristen Mark, author of the article and director of the sexual health promotion laboratory at the University of Kentucky.
Step up men!!!
But don’t get too carried away in the heat of the moment that you forget to use contraceptives. Unless you are actively trying for a baby in your relationship, then that’s another story! But if your plans for the near future don’t involve a crying, squealing baby, then practice safe love making.
One of the easiest contraceptives you can get in Malaysia is the condom. You can literally walk in to most convenience stores and find boxes of different condoms for sale.
If you are puzzled by which brand to buy, why not go for Durex? For starters, you already know that you are in safe hands with their quirky marketing! So much win.
Plus, they have a really extensive range of condoms for you to choose from. You’re bound to find one you like! Not only that, they have other gels, lubricants and devices that can add more pleasure when you get down and dirty with your partner.
You can check out more here. You’re welcome!